Unlike a finished piece of art- be it a sculpture or a painting- you are never finished. You are constantly becoming and constantly changing. So no matter where you are now- you can move to anywhere or anything you want. Life can and will get better. And the joy you are looking for is in the journey.
In every moment we have a choice- to choose a thought that feels a bit better or a thought that feels a bit worse. We are constantly moving and ever changing. If it doesn’t feel like much is changing in your life, it means that things are changing- but they’re changing to the same thing.
Thought habits can be initially compelling, but we can gradually change them. A willingness to want to feel good is an excellent place to start.
I know that horrid feeling of judging myself as “permanently stuck” when things weren’t going well. I would also worry about where my life was heading and what might happen. The truth is there is nothing permanently stuck or fixed. Wherever we are is the perfect place to begin moving from, to wherever we want to be. Sometimes we may begin our changes instantly and other times we may need some time before we change, and that’s ok too.
“You are always molding yourselves into a better feeling place. And you will never get it done. It will never be completely finished. It will never be absolutely right. You will always have some dominant thoughts that are not a vibrational match to the newfound desire. But that is always what your work is. And it’s time for you to just begin relaxing about it, and not make it a personal issue of your own valor, or your own value, or your own integrity. In other words, it’s just, how many times have I thought this thought?” Abraham
Your physical body is not finished. It doesn’t matter how unpopular you were in high school or even yesterday. You can begin to journey along to the perfect well being, youthful and beautiful looks anytime you choose. Your relationship status or job situation is not fixed either, regardless of where it is now. Nothing is fixed. Isn’t that relaxing to hear? Even if you “mess up your life” (in your words) – you can always get it back on track. And the life experience in this temporary detour is hugely beneficial, as it has created a fantastic possibility for you, far greater than if you hadn’t.
We are a work in progress on an eternal journey. Rather than see our life as a list of goals always a little out of reach, if we focus on being a constantly unfolding masterpiece and accept ourselves right here and right now, life is more satisfying and more fun.
If you can begin to realise that there is nothing more important than that you feel good- and insist on reaching for feelings of relief, understanding that Life is on your side and you haven’t got to do it all today- you will allow the well being of life to take you over like a huge wave washing over you.