Our life is how it is because of the story we tell. Whatever is happening to us- the fulfilling relationships (or lack of them), our bank account, the way we look and feel- everything– is about the story we are thinking and speaking (by ’story’ I mean our thoughts and beliefs; the stream of opinions and attitudes that make up our internal dialogue each and every day).
Some people think that telling things the way you want them to be is like telling a lie or somehow being unreal. But when you ask, it is instantly given- and telling a new story is about tapping into this greater reality of what you want, rather than focusing on the temporary reality of what you don’t want.
Your new story doesn’t have to be something you have lived before- it is whatever you want and whatever feels good.
“I don’t like working for controlling people” becomes: I always work with wonderful people. My workplace is filled with beautiful, interesting people. I love my job. I love the atmosphere of my work- it is full of such variety of people living their lives and finding out new ways to feel good. Everyone respects me. I am always surrounded by good-feeling people who allow me to be as I am…
Millionaires who came from poverty learnt to ignore reality and tell a different story. You often hear well-known actors or singers saying that they imagined themselves on stage or screen from an early age- repeating this story over and over; they spent more time in the success story than in the more visible ‘reality’ story around them.
“I feel plain and unattractive” becomes: I am abundant, dressed well, feeling good, feeling happy, speaking to happy people and being happy myself. I radiate attractiveness. People notice me and are interested in me. I am youthful, beautiful and full of life. Beautiful and interesting new people are constantly coming in into my life and are drawn to me like a magnet…
Changing your story is a profound yet simple enough concept- but it is easy to see why many people’s stories don’t change very much. Early on we have experiences and start observing them. We come to believe that ‘this is the way it is’. As we observe what we believe, we create more situations like that. In other words, we prove ourselves right. As this continues, our beliefs get stronger. We are right but are we happy? We create our own reality and we can make anything true for us by giving it our attention.
The faces and places may change- but the essence stays the same. No longer can you blame ‘that particular partner’ or ‘that particular boss’ or even ‘that particular town’ when you realize that you have experienced this situation before, with you being the common denominator in each case. We are the creators of our reality and it is easier to lazily observe your life the way it is and create the same reality, again and again.
As I’ve said, those who have moved beyond their humble beginnings are more focused on what’s coming than what is or what has been. They have made the effort to tell a new, better-feeling story. This is the secret to those true-life rags-to-riches tales we hear about.
“When am I going to meet my soulmate?” becomes I love my partner. He is a perfect reflection of me. He is beautiful and charismatic and funny and sweet and romantic. He deeply respects me and adores me. It’s amazing how easy it was for the Universe to bring us together. It is wonderful how perfect we are for one another. I love the way he feels. I love the way he smells. I love the brightness and connection in his eyes. I love him and he loves me. He adores me… he really does love me and this appreciation from one to another is so good-feeling…
How do we break the cycle and improve our lives?
It is all about practicing the new story. Many people read a new idea in an article or book and say ‘that’s fantastic’ and then just go back to their old way of doing things. And this is not surprising- we may have been telling that old story for a long time and it has built up quite a momentum (plus a lot of supporting evidence). The new story needs to be practiced too- and it makes sense this takes a little time and effort. You may go a little forward and then revert back to your old story and that’s ok. Just keep going with your intention to tell a better feeling story. Spend a little time every day practicing your story- it doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to fell a little better. Write it down, close your eyes and spend a few minutes seeing yourself living the way you’d like, record it and play it back to yourself over and over until it becomes an easy story to tell. The new, better feeling version has behind it the support of the Universe- so change will be swift. A little willingness to tell a new story will allow the Universe to get to work assisting you with evidence, which will feed into encouraging your new, good-feeling story.
“If you will let your dominant intention be to revise and improve the content of the story you tell every day of your life, it is our absolute promise to you that your life will become that ever-improving story. For by the powerful Law of Attraction, it must be!” Abraham